Recently, bullying has become a worrying habit particularly in school. The person that do BULLYING is called BULLIES. Bullying is intentional tormenting in physical, verbal, or psychological ways. It can range from hitting, shoving, name-calling, threats, and mocking to extorting money and treasured possessions. Some kids bully by shunning others and spreading rumors about them. Others use email, chat rooms, instant messages, social networking websites, and text messages to taunt others or hurt their feelings .
There are lots of reasons why people are bullied. Some people are picked on because of their religion or race, whilst others are chosen because of their weight, the clothes they wear or because they're clever - things that no-one should be ashamed of. Bullies usually dominate, blame and use others. They have contempt for the weak and view them as their prey. They lack empathy and foresight, and do not accept responsibility for their actions. They are concerned only about themselves and crave attention.
There are different types of bullies produced in different types of homes. Among them are The hyperactive bully who does not understand social cues and therefore reacts inappropriately and often physically. The detached bully plans his attacks and is charming to everyone but his victims. The social bully has a poor sense of self and manipulates others through gossip and meanness. The bullied bully gets relief from his own sense of helplessness by overpowering others.
Kids or teenagers who became bullies usually victims of bullies themselves. 40% of bullies are themselves bullied at home or at school. A victim at home is more likely to be a bully at school. The reason may be that when a bully watches another child appear weak and cowering, it disturbs him because it reminds him of his own vulnerability and behavior at home.
A bully's parents may be permissive and unable to set limits on their child's behavior. From early on, the bully can do whatever he wants without clear consequences and discipline. His parents may have been abused themselves as children and view disciplinary measures as a form of child abuse.
A bully's parents often discipline inconsistently. If his parents are in a good mood, the child gets away with bad behavior. If the same parent is under stress, he or she will take it out in angry outbursts against the child. This child never internalizes rules of conduct or respect for authority.
A bully has not learned empathy and compassion. The parents of bullies often have prejudices based on race, sex, wealth and achievement. Other people are just competitors who stand in the way. Their child must always be the best in sports or academics, and others must be kept in an inferior position. A University of Chicago study led suggested that bullies watch more aggression on television and in family interactions. Aggression is rewarded and respected, and humiliating others is tolerated. Compassion and empathy seem like weaknesses.
So how can you become a ‘bully-buster’? Just follow these simple steps and empower one child, one family, one school, and one community at a time.
1. Bias-recognize, and then forgive yourself of your biases.
We are all human. We all have biases-both positive and negative: the super-smart Asian, or the mysterious villain in a turban. The trick is to be aware, acknowledge and not unconsciously pass them on. And don’t let the media or other institutions get away with it either.
2. Insist that school and home environments reflect the world young children live in.
Pay particular attention to books as they are proven way to influence a child's worldview, help form concepts of right and wrong, and raise awareness for social issues. Cinderella’s impact on generations of young women should be all the proof you need to convince yourself of the power of the written word. Don’t forget what is absent is almost as important as what is present because the missing link can provide children with the vital information necessary for beating bullying and diversity.
3. Language matter—Watch what you say and write!
Sticks and stones really do break bones and names do hurt. A person’s nickname or mockery will be very affecting that person’s personality. For example, if people called a person as a liar, then that person will often lie to everyone around him. Even thought he didn’t mean to lie in the first place, the nickname that was given to him makes him and his personality stick to the status-quo.
4. Teach your child (or friend) how to be successful.
Create family or classroom ‘contracts’ of behavior that includes bully-busting values like Respect, Honesty, Compassion, Fairness Responsibility and Courage.
These four simple steps to stop bullying in its tracks will provide everyone with a huge payoff: safer, more secure children who can thrive in an incredibly complex and diverse world.
Kamis, 03 Juni 2010
The Traditional Food Of Purwakarta
There are some traditional food of Purwakarta that could be enjoyed by us. Here are some of them :
1. Fermented Cassava
Tapai cassava is made from fermented cassava. This food is popular in Java and is known all over the place, from West Java to East Java. In West Java, it is known as peuyeum in Sundanese.
We need a cassava to make a fermented cassava as a substrate and a yeast (Saccharomyces cerevisiae) that has been smeared on the peeled cassava’s skin. There are two techniques to produce usual tapai, wet and soft, and dry tapai. Dry Tapai Priangan is more popular in the northern regions like Purwakarta and Subang, and it is known as the typical souvenir of this area (known as hanging peuyeum, because trading by hanging). This snack contains pro-vitamin A (beta carotene) that can maintain the health of skin and carotenoids non pro-vitamin A as antioxidants and can also prevent premature aging of our skin
2. Satay Maranggi
Satay Maranggi is a typical satay from Purwakarta. But there is also an opinion that comes from Cianjur Usually made from goat meat or beef.
Satay Maranggi vendors can be found in almost every corner of Purwakarta, mostly on the side of the roads. What makes difference between satay and satay maranggi is that satay maranggi is made from a marinade soy sauce with a blend of sweet taste, sour, and spicy that touches the tongue at the time we enjoy this unique spicy satay.
Alloy taste tempting flavor that arises because satay maranggi’s spices are made from soy sauce, green chili sauce, plus a little vinegar that made from a sugar cane.
It is usually served with a seasoning sauce that mixed with slices of red onion and fresh tomato and rice.
3. Simping
Simping is a typical food of Purwakarta. It is shaped like flat sheets, round, thin, usually white, and of course it was tasty. This food is made from rice flour that was given some spices. Simping is similar to something that used to hold the cotton candy. There are so many flavours of simping we could taste like cheese flavour, jackfruit flavour, spicy flavour and kencur flavour.
Currently Simping not only in produced in Purwakarta, but also in other areas such as Karawang.
4. Fermented nutmeg
The benefit of Nutmegs actually can not only be obtained from its seeds. But we can also take benefits from the fruit. The fruit is usually processed to be a refreshing snack, and that is the fermented nutmeg or manisan pala in Indonesia. This food is assured to lower the blood pressure and eliminates the aches. People in Purwakarta, attempts to take the benefits of this fruit as much as they can. They don’t just take the benefit from the seeds, but they also proceed the fruit to be a fermented nutmeg. The water from this food, is believed to be a cure for some diseases. A kilogram of it sold for Rp 25.000
5. Colenak
Colenak is the abbreviation of “dicocol enak” it’s a Sundanese language . Colenak is a food that made from peuyeum (tapai cassava), which was burned and then served with a sauce made from grated coconut and brown sugar.
1. Fermented Cassava
Tapai cassava is made from fermented cassava. This food is popular in Java and is known all over the place, from West Java to East Java. In West Java, it is known as peuyeum in Sundanese.
We need a cassava to make a fermented cassava as a substrate and a yeast (Saccharomyces cerevisiae) that has been smeared on the peeled cassava’s skin. There are two techniques to produce usual tapai, wet and soft, and dry tapai. Dry Tapai Priangan is more popular in the northern regions like Purwakarta and Subang, and it is known as the typical souvenir of this area (known as hanging peuyeum, because trading by hanging). This snack contains pro-vitamin A (beta carotene) that can maintain the health of skin and carotenoids non pro-vitamin A as antioxidants and can also prevent premature aging of our skin
2. Satay Maranggi
Satay Maranggi is a typical satay from Purwakarta. But there is also an opinion that comes from Cianjur Usually made from goat meat or beef.
Satay Maranggi vendors can be found in almost every corner of Purwakarta, mostly on the side of the roads. What makes difference between satay and satay maranggi is that satay maranggi is made from a marinade soy sauce with a blend of sweet taste, sour, and spicy that touches the tongue at the time we enjoy this unique spicy satay.
Alloy taste tempting flavor that arises because satay maranggi’s spices are made from soy sauce, green chili sauce, plus a little vinegar that made from a sugar cane.
It is usually served with a seasoning sauce that mixed with slices of red onion and fresh tomato and rice.
3. Simping
Simping is a typical food of Purwakarta. It is shaped like flat sheets, round, thin, usually white, and of course it was tasty. This food is made from rice flour that was given some spices. Simping is similar to something that used to hold the cotton candy. There are so many flavours of simping we could taste like cheese flavour, jackfruit flavour, spicy flavour and kencur flavour.
Currently Simping not only in produced in Purwakarta, but also in other areas such as Karawang.
4. Fermented nutmeg
The benefit of Nutmegs actually can not only be obtained from its seeds. But we can also take benefits from the fruit. The fruit is usually processed to be a refreshing snack, and that is the fermented nutmeg or manisan pala in Indonesia. This food is assured to lower the blood pressure and eliminates the aches. People in Purwakarta, attempts to take the benefits of this fruit as much as they can. They don’t just take the benefit from the seeds, but they also proceed the fruit to be a fermented nutmeg. The water from this food, is believed to be a cure for some diseases. A kilogram of it sold for Rp 25.000
5. Colenak
Colenak is the abbreviation of “dicocol enak” it’s a Sundanese language . Colenak is a food that made from peuyeum (tapai cassava), which was burned and then served with a sauce made from grated coconut and brown sugar.
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